Do you let a small thing ruin your whole day? Your good mood is gone and you get in a funk. Being sensitive isn’t bad. But sometimes it’s a right burden if it messes up your whole day.Or are you in general a very pessimistic and negative person? Do you wonder how to change my attitude?
Let’s jump right in:
What are the different types of attitudes?
Before you learn how to change your attitude to a positive one you need to know which attitudes exist in first line:
Positive Attitudes:
Connections: Affectionate, Free, Confident, Responsible, Ambitious, Caring, Sincere, Faith, Reliable
Full List is here
Negative Attitudes:
Connections: Aggressive, Arrogant, Critical, Cynical, Envious, Greedy, Irresponsible, Suspicious, Sad, Fear, Hopelessness Doubt
Full list is here
Connections: Detachment, Indifference, Complacence, Unemotional, Being Disconnected
Sikken Attitudes:
This attitude is known for being the worst of all. According to Carolyn Landesman it is destructive and destroys any positive image that comes to mind.
To understand the difference between the four attitudes I’d like to quote an example of Asrar Ayyub – “If you protect yourself without damaging others, your attitude is positive; if you protect yourself by damaging others, your attitude is negative; if you are unconcerned with your or someone else’s interests, your attitude is neutral; and if in an attempt to damage others, you do not hesitate even to damage yourself your attitude is sikken.”
how can i change my attitude from negative to positive
1. Positive Self-Talk
No more negative thoughts. Instead of swearing and being argumentative Give yourself a pep-talk in front of the mirror. (Funny Faces are Encouraged)
2. Go Out- Change the Scene
The best way to get out of a funk are new experiences. Visit places showcasing colorful paintings. Go watch sunsets or people. Watch the beauty of nature.
3. Don’t Care About The Opinions Of Others
Learn to care less. Do what you like. Like what you do. If you know your loved one criticises or even mocks you for a hobby or a mistake then dont tell them. You like old cars? Go find people who like old cars too. You like history? Go talk with people who like history. There are billions of people on this planet. It is almost certain that you will find a person who understands you. You can always leave us a message at projectgirl2woman@gmail.com if you need someone to rant to 😉
Just give us a day or two to reply.
4. Breath
Take 10 deep breaths. In out. In out. If neccessary count back from 10. Disconnect feel the emotion floating away.
5. Follow The 10/10/10 Rule
Will what happened matter in 10 days, 10 months, 10 years? If yes maybe it’s time to talk to the person who causes those feelings. (Take a day to cool of first. I had my worst conversations in an lets say unbalanced mood).
6. Don't take Everything Personal - You aren't that important
Your friend does’t text you all day and you are in a foul mood cause you think she doesn’t think you are important. She too has a life. The most likely explanation is that she is simply busy.
7. Eat, Sleep, Drink Well
In Germany there is this snickers commercial “You aren’t you when you are hungry” (Is that a thing in your country?)
Anyways not enough rest, being hungry and not enough water can turn us into right beasts. (Your man is grumpy all day -> try food 😉 )
8. Gratitude Lists or Journals
I think they are just fluff talk, I appreciate small things all day no need to write them down. (Feel free to correct me)
BIG BUT many swear that writing down something positive each day helps them stay positive! Try it and see if it works for yourself. See it as an experiment.
9. Stay away from the News
I don’t watch any news anymore. Everything on the news is trimmed to make us angry, afraid, sad, shocked, grumpy. (Even the weatherforecast in Germany makes me sad most of the time). We soak up all that negativity and wonder why we are cynical, grumbly people.
Try it: Stay away from social media (<- you can read how to do that here), and stay away from the news for 2 weeks it’s a 14 day challenge .
10. Ready For Action
You theoretically know you don’t have to be pessimistic all the time, but you can’t stop your negative feelings? Move it. Don’t stay indoors all day. Make experiences. (Go grab you headphones, turn on some positive music (yeah feels weird at first when your emotions and the music don’t match keep listening anyways) , go out, take a walk) You can even leave the blogpost (tho make sure to come back and leave a comment later 😉 )
11. Do something physical or start a Project
Are you always angry at the world? Most likely you feel hurt. It’s always easier to be angry than to feel the pain (at least for me). You need to work all those feelings out of your system. Go do a six pack challenge or try one of these 30 day challenges. Or you can start a project. Plan an event for people in the same situation. Be PROACTIVE.
You don’t have to stay in that situation. It’s up to you to turn all that negative energy into something meaningful. You’ll find out changing your attitude is possible.
Wrapping Up....
These 11 tips on how to change your attitude are short and longterm solutions. The best way to change your attitude is to figure out what works for you. Try the above mentioned tips and let us know what works for you 🙂
Tell us which tips we missed. Or what you think is utter rubbish.
These are some really great suggestions on how you can alter your attitude and mindset. Thank you for sharing.
Lauren
While reading your post I managed not only to be more positive but also to laugh. Your sentence about the weather forecast in Germany was very funny! 😀 As I am also living in Germany, I know what do you mean, but, hell yeah, in other countries the weather is more awful and that makes me always feel better. 😀
Nevertheless, thanks for the tips! I found them very useful! ♥
This was a really informative post with some good practical tips. Thank you for sharing.
Lauren – bournemouthgirl
Positive self-talk is one of the biggest changes I’ve made and boy it effective. I also try to quickly interrupt and shutdown my negativity as soon as I notice it. It takes practice but has been a game-changer. Really interesting post — thanks for sharing!