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Family Goals to improve relationships and share love

Did you know that the 15th of May is the international family day? Even though spring still won’t be around the corner for another while, today’s post will prepare you to set effective family goals . Family goal setting, thereby, can strengthen your relationship with your family or resolve disagreements/ revive old relationships with family members. And who knows – maybe until next May your family relationships are on a whole different level.

Family Goals Meaning and Definition

Family based goals are goals you set as an individual or between family members to accomplish common goals. Family goals have the benefit of strengthening relationships and building trust and understanding between each family member.

Types of Family Goals:

When you set family goals there are a lot of factors that influence your choice of aim. Setting goals for a young family with two young children might be different than planning relationship goals just between you and your husband/wife.

Time and location also play an important role when writing down bullet points. Do you plan five years ahead? Or do you want to settle some short-term issues instead? Do you have goals for your home? Or planning special goals while going on a vacation?

Going through your family oriented goals takes time and care. Just like any other goal, they should be smart and achievable.

Family Goals Examples

The following list should give you some insights on how you can plan your family goals. But keep in mind that they should be as unique as your family is. Copying from someone else doesn’t work. So take the time and sit together with your loved ones. Family goals are best if they are shared together.

Family Goals by Persons

For young families:

Going on a trip to Disneyland
Craft paper cones for the children’s first day of school

For Grandparents:

Visit Grandparents Day in Kindergarten
Take a lot of pictures together
Exchange stories with your (grand)children and life lessons
Read books to grandchildren/spent more time with them

For Children:

Prepare Sunday breakfast in bed for your parents
Pick flowers outside and share them
Draw them a family picture with a cute message
Do household chores

For adult children:

Invite your parents on a trip
Call them weekly
Write a gratitude letter to your parents
Surprise them with a barbecue

For young professionals:

Call your family regularly
Have at least one family dinner per week
Don’t miss any birthdays of your loved ones

For Singles:

Get a boy/girlfriend
Introduce the family to significant people

For students:

Invite family members to events (Christmas/graduation)
Stay up to date with your family
Go home during holidays

Family Goals based on time:

For the new year:

Plan family events ahead
Take a family holiday together
Go to all events of your children
Call someone you broke off contact in the past
Send postcards to your (grand) parents when abroad

Long Term Family Goals:

Getting a baby
Having pets
Moving Together/Marriage
Moving closer to family

Short term Family Goals:

Inviting your family to dinner
Say I love you to your parents
Spend Comfort
Support your children with school work
Buy flowers/Bake a cake for your in-laws

Family goals based on location:

Family goals at home

Having a house chore list
Weekly movie night
Reading stories to children
Say I love you daily

Family goals for vacation

Taking a lot of pictures
Doing family-friendly activities
Crafting a present for your parents (shell necklaces)
Sending postcards to grandparents

Family goals for holidays

Celebrate christmas together
Buy a seasonal family outfit
Cook food together
Pack presents together
Play boardgames on a cold day

Family Goals based on Type

Family Fitness/Sport Goals

Share a sport together
Family walk Sundays
Do 30min yoga with your kids daily
Find a hobby for your children
Go to the playground 2 times/week

Family Health Goals

Healthier dishes for family
Make kids taste new food
Teach your kids to cook
Do regular checkups with the whole family

Family Lifestyle Goals

Set family rules
Buy a house with a garden
Move to city/countryside
Spend more time in nature

Read Also: Set Social Goals | Set Money Goals

Family Goal Tools:

There are many different ways and tools you can use to note down and visualize your family goals.

Family goal Checklist

The first, and most common way is to make a checklist. You can just scribble down some subheadings and fill them with content afterward, keeping it clean and organized on a piece of paper. Yet, it would make more sense to have a brainstorm paper first, messy but with everything that comes to your mind.

Family Goals Mindmap:

Another way to collect your family goals is a mindmap. It is just like a checklist but a lot more structured and organized. If you note down in a certain color who is responsible for which task (eg. Aunt Mary invites me to dinner every saturday, Karin watches her niece every sunday etc.) it is a lot more visible and defined than the checklist and you have all important facts well sorted by color.

Family Goal Template Notion

Another great way to set up your family-oriented goals is Notion. How exactly you set up a template or sheet for goal setting is shown here (the post will be uploaded soon 🙂 please be patient)

Family Goals Vision Board

Last but not least is a vision board. Many great YouTubers show their vision boards proudly on their videos. And it’s true – vision boards are a nice and visual way to remind yourself of your goals but also highlight them with nice and relevant pictures. Plus, you spend a lot more time and thought on the board (and crafting it is fun!) You can read more about vision boards here.

Most goals are individual, but family goals are hard to meet if you only consider your side. If you want to improve your relationship with family members you need to sit down and have a talk about what both sides expect. Just this way you can guarantee that your actions move your relationship in the right direction. This also includes your children. Be open, let them say their opinion too. Always have pure communication and avoid breaking trust by lying. I already mentioned it before but take your time when writing down family goals and include everyone in the process. How you write it down is based on your own wishes, yet, the more time you spend the better.

Feel free to add more family goals in the comments and share them with the rest of the community <3

Are we being selfish with our personal goals?

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Are We Being Selfish With Our Personal Goals?

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The balancing act of Self-Fulfillment

When we grow up life is simple.

The smell of baked pies.

Grass tickling our feet.

Dancing in the rain.

Fights with our siblings.

Laughter and Tears.

The adults in our life make the decisions for us. Hoping we’ll have a better future than them. Trying to do better than their parents. Imagining a future for us that they guide us towards. Or they want to fulfill their unachieved dreams through us.

In either way we don’t have to worry about the next electricity bill, insurances and tax declarations.

Hell, we don’t even have to think what’s for dinner.

Maybe that’s romanticizing childhood. But you get the feeling. Our parents make all the decision, and we make few. And suddenly after all those years we grow up. Our parents have no longer any say in what we do and want.

Thought in their eyes we’ll always be their babies.

We want to make them proud. We want to be there for them like they were there for us. We try our best to do what they want us to do. Be it consciously or unconsciously. We want their:

“We are so proud of you.”

“ I always knew you would make a great… “

But deep down we start feeling angry, resentful, dissatisfied.

“You are so quiet these days?”

“ Why are you so grumpy?”

One morning we wake up and it hits us. This is not what we want. It’s awful. We don’t know exactly what we want yet. But there is this feeling in our belly telling us we are on the wrong path.

Now we have to decide. Dull that feeling out like so many do? Or figure out what we want instead.

One thing is for sure.

When we feel bad, we make others feel bad as well.

An unhappy person cannot make anyone happy.

We choose to follow our personal dreams.

What a shock to our loved ones. And they become anxious:

“You can’t feed yourself this way.”

“You are such a dreamer.”

“We only want the best for you.”

“See reason.”

“That’s how life is, get used to it.”

“Nonsense.”

“You talk with your daughter.”

We end up being labeled as selfish.

Can you give up your dreams for your loved ones? Are we allowed to want what we want? Are we being selfish wanting what we want? Seeing their hurt. Their disappointment. Their confusion. And their worry. Worry for us. Worry that their baby will be unhappy or have a difficult life.

We have many people in our life that want something for us. As we grow older, we get a partner, friends, mentors. More and more people, who want to have a say in our life.

Are we using others as an excuse? Holding ourselves back from reaching our dreams? Or is it that they really are against us working on our goals?

“If I do that, they will feel bad.”

There are 2 reasons why our loved ones push us in a certain direction:

1. Their guidance comes from a place of love. They are worried that we’ll be unhappy, unhealthy, get hurt, live in poverty.

2. Their guidance comes from a place of selfishness. They want to fulfill their dreams through us, they worry about their reputation, they want to brag with us.

When their pushing us in a direction comes from a place of love, they will say they won’t stand in our way. They will let us go.

When you love someone, you let them go and when they really love you, they will come back. Does that mean I don’t really love if I go for my dreams? Knowingly hurting them?

So, what do you do? Follow your dreams, be happy and in conclusion make them unhappy? Follow their dreams for you, be unhappy and make them happy? Or compromise fulfill neither’s dreams completely and in progress make everyone unhappy? What is fulfilment for you?

It is quiet a dilemma.

But what if we can invite them into our world. Let them take part in it. Show them how they can profit from us achieving our dreams. Show them how serious we are? Why we do what we want to do.

When our dreams become their dreams for us, they will be our biggest supporters.

In companies a good leader motivates all people, even those who are reluctant, against change and worried. We can learn from great leaders and get our loved ones on board.

Show them what we do, how we’ll earn money, ease their worries.

Make your loved ones support your dreams:

1. be patient and give them time

2. communicate openly

3. show them through actions that their beliefs are wrong

4. engage them

After all they are important in our life. They are worth a little effort.

When they really want to push us on a certain path out of love, they will accept our goals, collaborate with us, and when they push us towards a goal for selfish reasons, I don’t see why we should sacrifice our dreams for their egos. If that means we are being selfish, so be it.

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Be more social with the Absolute Biggest Free List of Social Goals

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HOW TO SET SOCIAL GOALS / RELATIONSHIP GOALS:

Are you struggling with being social? Or would you like to spice up your social life? Especially nowadays it is difficult to make new friends and to stay in touch with old ones.

Phones, the internet, quarantine, social distancing, closed stores, home office. It is a wonder we have any friends at all! Did you know that according to a study published in The Journals of Gerontology that loneliness is associated with a 40% increase in the risk of dementia?

My grandma often talks about times when people sat together, sang songs after work, played cards by the fire and told horror stories.

Nowadays setting Social Goals is an immensely important part of goal setting. If not one of the most important goal setting categories. To form deep and honest relationships. To feel as an important part of something.

Get inspired with our list of relationship goals to implement into your goal plan.

Benefits of Social Goals

Deepen Your Relationships. You only talk about shallow topics and have no one you can share secrets with? It is time to bring your relationships to the next level.
Build Lasting Friendships. Your friends complain you never have time for them? Or they keep drifting away? Put them on your goal plan.
Rekindle old Friendships. They’ve already drifted away? It’s not too late! You can reconnect with them!
Build your Network. Imagine you move and you know exactly the people you can call that will help you. Or you need someone to review you book. A big network can never hurt.
Sort out Toxic People. Social Goals aren’t all fluffy. Maybe you need to make some hard decisions and get rid of/ limit the time you spend with toxic people.
Feel Connected. Spending time with colleagues, making and having friends to rely on. You will feel so much stronger! Become part of a supportive community.
Stop Loneliness. Get rid of the heavy heart and lighten it up with some deeper connections.
Improve your Health. As previously mentioned, being lonely is horrible for your health. Make time to recharge with friends.
Improve your Social Skills. Are you anxious in big crowds, want to become better at presentations? Become a better listener, communicator? Set Goals to improve your Social Skills.
Feel Great and Give Back. Social goals also include community goals and volunteering. Collaborate and create a better place for yourself and your loved ones. You can even find your social purpose.

Social Goals Definition

Relationship Goals are about the connection you have with your network, the community, and your environment. They are about relationship building, maintaining and deepening. For example, by spending quality time, improving your social skills and doing community service.

Categories of Social Goals

Community Goals. In the form of community service, volunteering, giving back. There are plenty of projects. Check out your city site and find the projects that interest you.
Friendship Goals. Make new friends, remove toxic friends, deepen your friendships, or just have a good time. Set bff goals or friendship goals.
Family Goals. Want to feel more connected to your family? Make them your priority and set family goals.
Couple Goals / Marriage Goals. You haven’t had as much time for your significant other? Your relationship feels dull? You want to get some “Sazz” back? Set Couple Goals.

Relationship Goals List for any Age and Situation

Wonder what Social Goals to have? Here we collected the ultimate social goals examples list. Whether you are a student, a worker, in quarantine, or you get social anxiety. You’ll get a wide variety of social goal ideas.

Social Goals in School

Suggest a Teambuilding. Ask your teacher to do a team building. You’ll get closer to your classmates and have some off time. That’s worth petitioning for, isn’t it?
Learn to Handle Conflict. Schooltime is a great time to learn all about conflict management. You can for example join a mediation club.
Take part in Presentation Competitions.
Share Ideas.
Do a Group Project.
Join a School Club.
Establish a School Club.
Greet the People you Meet
Connect with new people. Wonder how to make new connections? Ask someone if you can borrow a pen. Let them recommend a coffee shop. Sit next to them during lunch.
Volunteer
Help a friend
Get Closer to Your Parents/ Grandparents.

Social Goals for Students

Do Community Service
Help Younger Students
Join a Club
Host a Meeting
Do a Language Exchange
Start a new Sport
Talk to 100 new People in a Year
Improve 1 Social Skill
Really get to know your Classmates
Get to know relatives you hardly have any contact with.
Make/ Join a Student Dormitory Facebook Group

Social Goals for Adults

Write old friends. You can try a handwritten letter.
Plan an after-work dinner with your colleagues
Start a Program to get to know other colleagues. For example, a lunch roulette, where it’s random with whom you have lunch.
Join night classes to learn a new skill and meet new people.
Try a new Hobby.
Spend time with your kids.
Plan a trip with your partner.
Try Date-Night.
Surprise your parents.
Become a better Listener
Ask friends if you can help them with a project.
Decrease time with people who zap your energy.

Best Friends Goals

For Friendship Goals also check out Lacey Bunny’s great post on friendship goals. Here are some of her examples:

Spend Lunchtime Together
Do a Sleepover! I think you are never too old for a sleepover, are you?
Share a Hobby.
Go on a trip together.
Be study buddies.
Listen to each other’s problems.
Motivate and Support each other.
Video Call Regularly. Make it a Movie Night.

Social Goals During Quarantine

Want to be more social during quarantine? Check out these goals:

Videochat with loved ones.
Write Letters.
Join Online Communities.
Do Online Volunteer Work.
Improve Your Social Skills. Join an online course or read on the topics.
Start an Online Book Club.
Make Future Plans.
Learn your Colleagues/ Friends first language.
Leave some positive Comments.

Social Skills Goals

Improve your Listening Skills
Learn to build Rapport.
Learn about Body Language.
Develop Presentation Skills.
Learn how to do Small Talk.
Learn about Deep Conversations
Become more Self-Aware.
Improve your Conflict Solving Skills

Also Check out this Great Post on Skills You Need.

Relationship Goals with Social Anxiety

Best way to battle your anxiety is to challenge your fears. Check out these simple ideas to overcome your anxiety.

Say “hello” to one person per day.
Go to a Meetup.
Make 1 new friend.
Study/ Work in a Public Place.
Hang out with people you are comfortable with and include one new person.
Bring in an idea at work.
Voice your opinion.
Go to an event.
Join a social anxiety group.
Ask X people on the street for directions.
Call X number of people.

Summary:

Social Goals have a wide range of benefits. You can improve your social skills, form and deepen your relationships, get in touch with your community and overcome your social anxiety. We explored various social goals, from the 4 major categories:

Family Goals
Friendship Goals
Community Goals and
Couple Goals

Above you will find goals for when you are at school, a college student, an adult, in quarantine, to improve your social skills and when you have social anxiety.

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